How to Break Up with a Vendor – Suggestions from a Wedding Coordinator

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When you first start wedding planning, the whole process can be so exciting! You go out and try to get as much information as you can and talk to as many vendors as you can. During the wedding planning process it is important to shop around for pricing and the right fit but what happens when you have made your final decision and you have to tell another vendor you went with someone else?

In the Wedding Coordination Process Do You Even Need to Tell a Vendor No?

I know that is seems easier to just stop responding to the vendor and slowly they will get the hint and move on. But this technique is not fair to the vendor – or your email inbox! It can be intimidating to make a phone call or send an email and say that you went with someone else but it is the right thing to do! It is awkward but the wedding vendors will be happier if you just tell them instead of ghosting them. Think of it like a date, you want to hear from the person you went out with either way – just not knowing is not a good feeling. The wedding vendor also might have your day reserved so they are turning away other possible clients if you do not contact them. As wedding coordinators, we understand that sometimes another company fits your style, vibe, or budget and other vendors are the same way. The vendors are happy for you and want you to have your dream day whether they are involved or not; they do not take it personally!

Techniques for Letting Wedding Vendors Down Easy:

  • Keep it short, sweet and simple!

  • Just a quick call or email to say “thank you but we have gone a different direction”

  • Be honest! If they ask, tell them why you went with the other vendor – this is a learning process for them too

  • Mention that you will keep them in mind when your friends are getting married!

Still Nervous?

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This is one of the many great reasons to hire a wedding coordinator or even partial wedding planner because we can do this task for you! We pick between wedding vendors all the time and keep positive professional relationships with them all so let us do the work! This way you can enjoy trying out vendors, food…and cake while we handle the hard conversations about pricing, discounts and letting wedding vendors know who you have chosen.